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Habitot Children's Museum
2065 Kittredge Street
Berkeley, CA 94704
(510) 647-1111
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Parental Intuition
These days, there are experts and busy-bodies everywhere telling you how to raise your child. For new parents, the sheer volume of messages regarding child rearing, some of them contradictory, can be overwhelming.

The key is in developing and trusting your parental intuition. This is not to say that one shouldn't consider proven, effective parenting strategies nor base practices solely on gut feelings or 'the way your parents did it'. We must look outside of our own ego and needs to truly understand our children and meet them where they are.

  • Reflect on your own childhood. Think back to when you were a child. What types of activities did you enjoy the most? What did you like (and not like) about how people treated you and why? While your child is a unique being and will not react to her world the same way you did when young, reflecting on your own childhood can give you valuable insight the mind of a child and help guide your path.

  • Pay attention to your child. Make time every day to interact with her with no distractions – no TV, no cell phone, no interruptions. Really listen to what she says and does. This may seem like a small thing, but a few uninterrupted minutes a day can teach you a lot about your child, her interests and skills, her hopes and fears.

  • See the world through his eyes. When your child is frustrated or upset, try to imagine how he feels. The question isn't "How would I feel in the same situation?" It's "How does he feel in this moment?" It's not just about asking what it's like to be in his shoes, but what it's like to have his feet.

  • Think about your child’s needs. Do you have a child that needs more exercise than other kids or that needs down time after school or extra cuddles first thing in the morning? While meeting your child’s needs can sometimes be inconvenient, it will give your child the internal resources she needs to succeed and greatly improve your overall communication and relationship.

  • Trust your gut. Sometimes even the experts are wrong. If you have a strong feeling that something is wrong with your child or your child needs something he isn’t getting, attend to that feeling. You may very well be right. There are countless stories of parents who discover important things about their children by listening to their instincts and advocating for what they believe is right.
In the words of the immortal Dr. Spock, “The more people have studied different methods of bringing up children, the more they have come to the conclusion that what good mothers and fathers instinctively feel like doing for their babies is usually best after all.”
 
Resources:

What Makes a Terrific Parent? Alfie Kohn. 2012.
www.huffingtonpost.com/alfie-kohn/parenting-advice_b_1442636.html

Intuitive Parenting. Robin Grille. 2012.
www.junomagazine.com/intuitive-parenting/

Trust Yourself As A Parent. Dr. Benjamin Spock. 1998.
www.parents.com/parenting/better-parenting/advice/trust-yourself-as-a-parent/

 
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