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Fathers Make A Difference
How and why fathers are so important
Fatherhood is the only profession where you're guaranteed that the more effort you put into it, the more enjoyment you will get out of it.
                          – Dr. William Sears
Lifelong Happiness and Well-Being
Children with an involved father begin reaping the benefits at birth, and are better positioned for life. Small children with attentive dads are more likely to be emotionally secure and thereby confident exploring their surroundings. As they grow older, these children are better able to connect socially with peers. As adolescents and young adults, these children are also less likely to get in trouble; be it at home, school, or with drugs and alcohol. Children with fathers who are nurturing, involved, and playful also turn out to have higher IQs. They have stronger language acquisition and problem solving skills. In other words, the importance of the influence an involved father can have over his child's happiness and well-being cannot be overstated.
Father Child
Fathers tend to spend more time in playful, physical activities with their children. Researchers believe this type of play helps children learn to regulate their emotions, and resist the urge to act on aggressive impulses.
Fathers also tend to encourage independence and achievement. Their play is more likely to encourage their children to embrace a reasonable level of risk, both on the playground and in life.
Father Daughter
For girls, a father’s beliefs about the value and abilities of women will shape her goals and ambitions. The father-daughter relationship becomes a model for how she expects to be treated by men in her life. Girls who grow up with loving, attentive fathers are more likely to succeed academically and less likely to end up in violent or unhealthy relationships.
For boys, a father is the primary role model as his son learns what it means to be a man. He influences his sons’ morals and ethics, including how he will end up treating women, and how he values himself as a person.
Here are some tips for building a healthy father-child relationship:
Be Present
No matter how busy life gets, daily dedicate time (and energy) to spend bonding with your child through physical play, reading together, or talking about things going on in the child’s life. Be present at dinner and bedtimes.
Talk – and Listen
Talking and listening to your child from an early age develops trust. Ask your child about their day, the highs and lows, the triumphs and troubles. Share your own successes, challenges, and even failures because they model your resilience.
Share Interests
When you have a hobby or passion you share with your child, it provides a great opportunity to spend time together. Having a common bond, such as model trains or a sport, can help during those tough teen years when kids think their parents don't know a thing.
Support Success
Don’t miss those important moments! Attend your child's performances, athletic events, and awards ceremonies. It's important for children to know their parents support them and share in their milestones and successes.
Create Future Parents
Give all your children dolls to play with. Whether you are parenting boys or girls, start them early on a path to becoming great parents (or aunts and uncles) themselves. Give them dolls to play with and nurture, encourage social/emotional learning, and encourage them to help care for younger siblings. 
Respect Your Partner
Demonstrate love, appreciation, and respect toward your partner in front of your children. Doing so not only makes children feel secure, it also models positive behaviors in relationships that your children will carry with them into their own relationships.
Being a father is having the opportunity to give someone you love the best possible shot at lifelong happiness and well-being. Better still, it's fun and rewarding. 

Happy Father’s Day!
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